Conflict Style Questionnaire
1. To identify your conflict style 2. To examine how your conflict style varies in different contexts or relationships
Directions
1. Think of two different situations (A and B) where you have a conflict, a disagreement, an argument, or a disappointment with someone, such as a roommate or a work associate. Write the name of the person for each of the following situations.
2. According to the scale that follows, fill in your scores for Situation A and Situation B. For each question, you will have two scores. For example, on Question 1 the scoring might look like this: 1. 2 | 4
3. Write the name of each person for the two situations here:
Person A ______________________________
Person B _______________________________
1 = never 2 = seldom 3 = sometimes 4 = often 5 = always
Person A Person B
1. _____|_____ I avoid being “put on the spot”; I keep conflicts to myself.
2. _____|_____ I use my influence to get my ideas accepted.
3. _____|_____ I usually try to “split the difference” in order to resolve an issue.
Person A Person B
4. _____|_____ I generally try to satisfy the other’s needs.
5. _____|_____ I try to investigate an issue to find a solution acceptable to both of us.
6. _____|_____ I usually avoid open discussion of my differences with the other.
7. _____|_____ I use my authority to make a decision in my favor.
8. _____|_____ I try to find a middle course to resolve an impasse.
9. _____|_____ I usually accommodate the other’s wishes.
10. _____|_____ I try to integrate my ideas with the other’s to come up with a decision jointly.
11. _____|_____ I try to stay away from disagreement with the other.
12. _____|_____ I use my expertise to make a decision that favors me.
13. _____|_____ I propose a middle ground for breaking deadlocks.
14. _____|_____ I give in to the other’s wishes.
15. _____|_____ I try to work with the other to find solutions that satisfy both our expectations.
16. _____|_____ I try to keep my disagreement to myself in order to avoid hard feelings.
17. _____|_____ I generally pursue my side of an issue.
18. _____|_____ I negotiate with the other to reach a compromise.
19. _____|_____ I often go with the other’s suggestions.
20. _____|_____ I exchange accurate information with the other so we can solve a problem together.
Person A Person B
21. _____|_____ I try to avoid unpleasant exchanges with the other.
22. _____|_____ I sometimes use my power to win.
23. _____|_____ I use “give and take” so that a compromise can be made.
24. _____|_____ I try to satisfy the other’s expectations.
25. _____|_____ I try to bring all our concerns out in the open so that the issues can be resolved.
